Journaling. In some rooms I’ve been in, that word would instantly get hackles raised. It’s one of those things like yoga and mindfulness that get recommended to people all the time as if they are a magic cure. I practice each one of those strategies, I know they’re great, but so often they are offered…… Continue reading Reflection
During my many, many, many years of infertility treatments, I was surrounded by loving, well meaning friends and family who wanted nothing more than to soothe my pain. And so, repeating the same cultural scripts we all hear around us, they’d often say things like, “everything will work out” or “you’ll get pregnant as soon…… Continue reading Validation over Minimization
Parenting always brings the dilemma: is it time to push my child more, or is it time to leave things be and let them figure it out? Is it time to push, or time to glide? My son was born with multiple disabilities and high support needs, so my version of this question often came…… Continue reading When to Accept and When to Fight
The greatest sources of our suffering are the lies we tell ourselves. Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score The only thing that is true for all of us is that we were born, our bodies need care to survive, and then at some point our bodies break down and we die. There…… Continue reading Accepting Body Needs
I remember the exact moment I fell in love with my husband. He was hunched over a teeny saucepan in my shitty college kitchen I shared with five other girls. I was laying on the couch with my high heels propped up, still in my church dress. We had been at church when I felt…… Continue reading How to fall in love with yourself