Some of the most sacred times I’ve had as a mother have been at the hospital bedside of my son. During the long nights after surgeries and procedures he would experience so much fear and pain, but he could get through all of it as long as I was on a cot next to him,…… Continue reading Care Builds Trust
When you dig down through all the hype and the noise about diet and exercise to what science has proven to be true and effective management for all human bodies, you will find nothing there. There is nothing in existence that will work for each of us in all our diverse needs. Our bodies just…… Continue reading Nothing is Just One Thing
During my many, many, many years of infertility treatments, I was surrounded by loving, well meaning friends and family who wanted nothing more than to soothe my pain. And so, repeating the same cultural scripts we all hear around us, they’d often say things like, “everything will work out” or “you’ll get pregnant as soon…… Continue reading Validation over Minimization
As I wandered through my attempts at healing, there were so many times when I had to ask myself, “Am I just paying to be gaslit?” In group classes or group therapies, at motivational speeches, at exercise classes or in inspirational tiktoks, even at church, so often the advice is just, “Tell yourself you don’t…… Continue reading Start Sarcastic
Living with chronic disabilities means that your body often feels like your greatest enemy. Living with neuro disabilities or mental health conditions means that you can’t always trust your body signals to be accurate. So for decades, whenever I would hear messages about loving your body or trusting your body, my reaction would be: “Why…… Continue reading Take Your Body’s Side
As a disabled person, I have a real beef with Manifesting. The Secret, the Law of Attraction, all that kind of stuff gets really dark really fast when you’re sick. Nobody deserves to think that they’re sick because they brought it on themselves with their mind. But it’s seductive to believe. It’s nice to think…… Continue reading Creating Your Reality
When we’re born, we learn about the world through the people close to us. If our adults tell us Santa is real, we believe them. We only stop believing in Santa when enough of our peers or enough of our media content gives us reason to believe something else. If the systems that we’re born…… Continue reading Looking Through a New Lens